How Confident do you Seem to Others?

Your level of self-confidence can show in many ways: your behavior, your body language, how you speak, what you say, and so on. Look at the following comparisons of common confident behavior with behavior associated with low self-confidence. Which thoughts or actions do you recognize in yourself and people around you?



Doing what you believe to be right, even if others mock or criticize you for it.

Being willing to take risks and go the extra mile to achieve better things.

Admitting your mistakes, and learning from them.

Waiting for others to congratulate you on your accomplishments.

Accepting compliments graciously. “Thanks, I really worked hard on that prospectus. I’m pleased you recognize my efforts.”


Low Self-Confidence

Governing your behavior based on what other people think.

Staying in your comfort zone, fearing failure and so avoid taking risks.

Working hard to cover up mistakes and hoping that you can fix the problem before anyone notices.

Extolling your own virtues as often as possible to as many people as possible.

Dismissing compliments offhandedly. “Oh that prospectus was nothing really, anyone could have done it.”


As you can see from these examples, low self-confidence can be self-destructive, and it often manifests itself as negativity. Self-confident people are generally more positive – they believe in themselves and their abilities, and they also believe in living life to the full.

NLP helps you to bring confidence through identification of following;

Look at What You’ve Already Achieved
Preparing for Your Journey
Think About Your Strengths
Think About What’s Important to You, and Where you Want to Go
Start Managing Your Mind
Then Commit Yourself to Success!
Be thankful for what you have.
Be Positive
Accept compliments gracefully.
Help others
Avoid perfectionism
Recognize your insecurities. What does that voice in the back of your mind say? What makes you uncomfortable or ashamed of yourself? This could be anything from acne, to regrets, friends at school or a past traumatic or negative experience. Whatever is making you feel unworthy, ashamed, or inferior, identify it, give it a name, and write it down. You can also tear these written pieces to start feeling positive on those points.

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